Today I welcome an awesome blogger/friend of mine from Another Jennifer! Her eclectic blog has many diverse posts related to motherhood, photography and Philanthropy. I am always inspired by her integrity and awareness of so many amazing organizations/people she shares information about in her weekly Friday Philanthropic posts. She has a passion for the stuff… and it shows! Today she shares her thoughts on motherhood…
You’re Doing Something Right
Parenting isn’t easy. I have days when I feel guilty for yelling at my kids, being impatient or not handling a situation in the best way.
But every now and then I get a nice reminder that I’m doing something right.
After a rare night out with friends, I came home to a four year old with a stomach bug. He got sick with the babysitter, and he kept getting sick once my husband came home from work. No one wanted to ruin my night out, so I found out when I came home. Though I initially felt guilty that I wasn’t there for him – because us moms torture ourselves this way – I was comforted that he had people who loved him to help him through the worst of his sickness.
I wasn’t home long before I heard Biz crying. I went upstairs, ready to comfort and disinfect, and my older son was already there. G, who is seven, had his arm around his little brother and was telling him that everything was going to be OK.
Turns out, this wasn’t the first time G got up to help his brother. His room is closer to Biz’s than ours, and so he was listening for his sick brother.
My husband and I often ask G to help us with his brother, and he never hesitates. Sometimes I wonder if we ask too much, but when I see how genuine he is with Biz, I realize that G really wants to help his brother.
Biz last woke up around 4:25am, and G was right there to help. I told him to go back to bed so that he wouldn’t be too tired for school. He asked me if I thought I should keep Biz home from pre-school and daycare that day. I told him not to worry about it. We’ll make sure Biz gets better.
Biz, of course, ended up staying home. He felt better, but he still couldn’t eat very much. He was on the couch watching movies for half the day and in bed “not sleeping” the other half. The funny thing is that G had an early release that day and though I offered to pick him up from school instead of sending him to daycare as planned, he opted to go to daycare to help out with the younger kids.
I honestly don’t know what I’d do without G those few days. It was hectic, with so many things going on personally and professionally. When I neglected to send a note in the next morning to allow him to take the bus to daycare so I could attend a later meeting, he went in and asked them to call me.
He keeps me in line, that kid. And he understands that sometimes even mom need a little help.
It makes me smile because though I am always quick to point out my parenting flaws, all I really need to do is to take a look my kids. They’re good kids. My husband and I try to teach them to be kind and to give back whenever possible. On more than one occasion G has been described to me as being a very thoughtful child that teachers and other authority figures appreciate having around. What else can you ask for?
So the next time you’re being hard on yourself as a mother, take a good look at your kids. I’m betting you’re doing something right too.
Jennifer Barbour is a copywriter, blogger, aspiring author and new media consultant. She aims to inspire, to entertain and to make you think. Her passions are writing, philanthropy, her awesome family and bacon, though not necessarily in that order. You can find out more at anotherjennifer.com.