I spent decades desperately searching for love. I’ve always been a passionate soul, and I ached for this ever-elusive knight in shining armor to find me. I journeyed through my tumultuous teens and my careless twenties, in search of The One.
I thought I found it in a grappling handful of hopeful men. I came to believe that love was unpredictable or at best, quite fleeting. I dove deeply into passion, only to reveal its darker side of torment and trepidation. I fought hard for love. And as I embarked on my quest, I thought I found The One many times.
I discovered over and over again-
That what I thought was True Love…
Wasn’t love at all.
On February 17th, 1999, I met him. I had no idea he was going to be The One, until I began a new journey into discovering True Love. I had not experienced this kind of love until him. I honestly didn’t have the means to understand it, or to find it, much less hold on to it. My perspective was distorted, my understanding limited, and my view skewed.
I wonder if there are other women out there that believe love is something it’s not.
Much like I did.
I always thought love felt like a tidal wave out of control, with unpredictable tsunamis that tore my world apart leaving the wreckage of brokenness. I thought love screamed and begged and battled for attention, for a voice to be heard. I believed love was about waiting and wondering and wanting. I understood love to be careless and quite reckless, like a wildfire of emotional turmoil set ablaze…
I thought this was love.
I’m so glad I was wrong.
I’ve been taught differently, since I found The One. It’s been a slow training program of 16 years that’s been marked with endurance, faith, and time.
I’m slowly defining this True Love as my marriage continues to transform my heart, and my life. I have been blessed with the greatest gift on earth. Lucky me. I chose the right one.
This is what I’ve learned:
True love doesn’t lose control, it holds on. The world may release relentless waves, but True Love is unwavering.
True love doesn’t leave you broken, it helps you heal. We are all broken, True Love mends.
True love doesn’t wait, or wonder or want; it’s truthful, honoring, and forthright.
True love doesn’t scream; it whispers. There is no need to scream, when your voice is always heard. True Love listens.
True Love doesn’t beg; it delivers. There is no need to beg, when love knows what you need and faithfully gives it.
True Love isn’t careless or reckless; it’s intentional and committed.
True Love isn’t bound in expectations; rather it’s boundless in forgiveness and respect.
True Love doesn’t abandon or reject or punish; it leans in, digs deep, holds on.
True Love doesn’t break in conflict or difference; it gives into understanding and bends in acceptance.
True Love doesn’t starve or dismiss or neglect; rather it feeds and nourishes and tends to the needs of the other.
True Love is not selfish and conditional; it is serving and sacrificial.
True Love doesn’t hinder your growth and success; it lifts and gives flight to your dreams.
Oh this love is rare in the world.
I am aware.
And as February comes in, once again to remind me of True Love, through Valentine’s Day and our Wedding Anniversary, I reflect on every year we have discovered the definition of True Love.
And I celebrate.
Lucky me. Lucky, lucky me.
The lovely folks over at Personal Creations gave me this beautiful gift to celebrate my True Love, and it serves to remind me of our love’s timeline and cherished years together.
This site has an incredible assortment of gorgeous items that you can personalize to celebrate YOUR True Love. Head over and find your gifts in time for Valentine’s Day! Seriously, I love this site.
This is going to be my next purchase:
And for those who celebrate True Love…
Embrace it. Celebrate it. Cherish it. Treasure it.
You are lucky, lucky too.