“This Too Shall Pass.”

Posted on Feb 28 2012 - 1:48am by momcafe

I am strong. I am living in the light. Life is good. I am grateful. I am filled with joy. I am blessed. And I am embracing every passing moment of life that omits sadness, fear, and trauma. With that said, my prayer time has turned to those who are “in it”. This proverbial phrase refers to the trenches of life that are ugly and difficult. Those days which are filled with angst, suffering, trials and hardships. We all have them. For I have been brought to my knees on many occasions in my life circumstances and found myself flat on my face in darkness… I have been “there”. But for this moment, I stand tall and use my strength to serve others in both deeds and prayers. It’s that circle and cycle of life and love for the ones we desperately care about as each takes their turn in the valley, and the other triumphs on the mountaintop.

It’s just how it goes.

So as my world glows with all that is good, and I dance in the light. I pray for all those who crawl in the darkness. So much darkness… A friend who seems to live in the boxing ring of life, taking blow after blow, another friend bearing the burden of a horrible divorce and trying to comfort her aching children, another friend trying to find answers for her medically fragile child, another friend whose son has lost his soul to addiction, another mom who swims in the depths of her precious child’s untimely death…

Darkness.

When I was suffering greatly with my new baby having all sorts of medical issues, my husband would say in his secure, yet seemingly dismissive tone…

“This too, shall pass.”

I looked at him in despair and anger and screamed in my heart, “How dare you say that!!”

I always received his statement as a superficial cliché and was outraged. How could he say something so contrite and trivial at a time like this!! When our firstborn baby was in the hospital with RSV and we were hundreds of miles away from home and I was holding her, as she struggled to put air in her lungs. This too, shall pass????  I just couldn’t hear it.

It always stung so badly, that I seriously considered if our marriage would endure all these trials. I was face down in darkness and fear, and the one with whom I hold sacred vows “In sickness and in health”… just seemed to walk right by, with a nod and a shrug. It was almost worse than the nightmare of my child suffering. I was in pure shock, and completely shaken.

Years later, having been through countless nightmares, traumas, and crises, I now consider his phrase both profoundly motivating and cautiously inspiring. As our lives continued through many valleys (and mountaintops…but focusing on the valleys for now!), my husband’s words echoed through each turn, and I started to understand more clearly what this seemingly trivial and superficial phrase really revealed. It has developed into our “theme” for our family in finding strength and hope in confronting head-on, the monster trials that we knew loomed ahead. His words of wisdom that years ago were rejected and scorned…now lie in my heart and the heart of this home with endearing light that often pulls us through.

“This too, shall pass.”

What does this really mean?

Look at your life, to discover its meaning…

You have survived. There are faded memories of years gone by where you endured some of your most difficult days. And it passed…

You may have a permanent “limp” as my new friend Ashley Taylor wrote, but my guess is you are that much stronger for having survived. We all limp around with scars and broken dreams. However, it’s those unique wounds on the fiber of our being that make us all the more special. Significant. Strong. Victorious.

The people I find most alluring and heroic, are the ones that have endured the dark days and rose to newer heights. It seems with our limps and scars, we still stand taller with each fall…slowly rising in triumph.

You can spot those tall ones anywhere you go. How tall are you? How big is your limp? How mighty is your strength?

If you are in darkness, please take these words as a light to soak in.

This too, shall pass…”

It may not feel like it now…but somehow it will. It may not pass in a way that is pleasing to you. It may stick around for years. But in some way, it will pass into something that transforms you. And the darkness will lighten into an acceptable, and adaptive new world.

You will walk a little taller.
You will limp a little harder.
You will shine a little brighter for having been through the darkness.

And if you let Him, God will strengthen you along the way. And with each new corner you turn…

You can look back at all the winding roads of your life and remember, realize, and recognize your strength.

“This too, shall pass” may be a whisper in your weary mind. Yet in that phrase, may you truly see it’s meaning…

And may it empower you to go on.

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  1. Ashley Taylor February 28, 2012 at 4:02 am - Reply

    Beautiful Christine. I have no doubt this post will help people. :) You are very kind and wrote it so well.

    • momcafe February 28, 2012 at 4:30 am - Reply

      Thank you so much Ashley! :)

  2. Marcia February 28, 2012 at 12:15 pm - Reply

    Chris –
    Beautifully written. So wonderfully encouraging! May God continue to bless your writings, so uplifting!

    • momcafe February 29, 2012 at 3:34 am - Reply

      Thank you Marcia! I am soooo grateful for you!!

  3. Ang Vankannel February 28, 2012 at 6:57 pm - Reply

    Thanks for sharing your wisdom & insight w/us.

    • momcafe February 28, 2012 at 8:01 pm - Reply

      Aw…you are such a dear friend. So grateful for your support. Love you!

  4. LeeAnn February 29, 2012 at 3:22 am - Reply

    This too shall pass. Amen, sister!

  5. Diana March 1, 2012 at 1:15 pm - Reply

    Having been there with you through some of those dark days, I can’t help but remember the many times you’ve pushed through, clinging to Derek’s words! This was a great post, Chris – thanks for sharing!

    • momcafe March 1, 2012 at 2:56 pm - Reply

      Ah yes….so many times I breathed those words in and out to get me through. And so grateful you took all the turns of the road with me…

  6. Rosslyn Elliott March 5, 2012 at 5:22 am - Reply

    Chris, I love being able to hear your thoughts even though we’re far apart. This is beautiful–I’ll have to share it. One of the many things that makes you so special is your honesty. It’s a great encouragement!

    • momcafe March 5, 2012 at 2:24 pm - Reply

      Rosslyn, I can’t tell you how much it means to me to have you take the time to read me, and share such beautiful encouragement! You just made my day! :)

  7. Jen March 7, 2012 at 12:14 am - Reply

    Wonderfully written + uplifting + encouraging = perfect! One of the best I’ve read. Thank you Chris!!!

    • momcafe March 7, 2012 at 12:31 am - Reply

      Oh, I love you!!! Your words are so encouraging to me!!!

  8. Hope Reid August 5, 2012 at 1:27 pm - Reply

    How inspiring. “This too shall pass” runs the risk of sounding cliche until we really learn to trust Him and we experience how He consistently brings us through. Thank you for this post!

    • momcafe August 5, 2012 at 1:35 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much for reading and commenting, Hope! Yes- trust is the key word isn’t it? I wrote another article on a time when I Let Go… check it out if you can! I think you would like it…

  9. Lynn hampton September 28, 2012 at 10:36 am - Reply

    Beautifully written!

    • momcafe September 28, 2012 at 1:36 pm - Reply

      Oh thank you soooo much dear friend!!! Pass it on to anyone who might be in need of reading it, okay?

  10. TFerguson September 28, 2012 at 11:28 am - Reply

    I knew you could put it into words much better than I could….you brought tears to my eyes….miss you :)

    • momcafe September 28, 2012 at 1:36 pm - Reply

      Oh now I am crying!!! You are such a love. Miss you too- just so much. SO grateful we are in touch again and can at least chat this way!! (Until a much needed road trip!!)

  11. Meredith December 4, 2012 at 11:01 am - Reply

    Wow! You said this so incredibly well, so spot on. I love what you said about these words being a light in the darkness–such beautiful hope. Sometimes I feel dismissed when people say this too, but lately I’ve been taking such comfort in these words. Wonderful. Thanks for sharing.
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    • momcafe December 4, 2012 at 2:27 pm - Reply

      Thank you so much Meredith! I am still a big believer in these words, and truly how they hold so much hope. Thank you so much for reading and sharing!

  12. Mariann March 19, 2013 at 8:51 pm - Reply

    I see that you wrote this post more than a year ago, but it was just what I needed at this moment. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you.
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    • momcafe March 19, 2013 at 11:48 pm - Reply

      Oh Mariann, I am so glad to know that this post was just what you needed. I have wanted to re-post it many times in hopes to encourage anyone who is “in it”- in anything… struggling in any kind of situation… in any way- I am hoping you can believe that “This Too Shall Pass”. Timing is amazing sometimes… I am so glad you stopped by!!

  13. Laurie May 21, 2013 at 1:29 am - Reply

    I am just now reading this, after hearing of the devastating tornado in Oklahoma today. So many lives altered forever, and yet your words are true. Tradgedy strikes with no respect for anyone, as we sit and wonder why, how…but life goes on, for those who have lost it all, and for those who are experiencing the greatest joy of their lives… at the same time. I sit and try to make sense of it all, and I can’t. But what you said holds true still. God is still God, in the good and in the horrific bad, and life goes on because all things pass.
    My prayers are with all those who are suffering, those affected by the tornados, and those who are facing their own personal disaster.

    • momcafe May 22, 2013 at 2:47 am - Reply

      Yes yes yes Laurie… I simply can’t imagine that kind of trauma and devastation. I was just praying this morning that God’s presence and light are seen and felt within the horrific circumstances.

  14. Undiagnosed but okay June 16, 2013 at 7:19 pm - Reply

    OH I totally get wanting to punch the person in the face that said something that at the time felt trite. Even if it was your husband. I’m glad you decided against it and that eventually his words became comforting.
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    • momcafe June 18, 2013 at 3:19 am - Reply

      Oh how it just KILLED me at the time! It’s really a great example of how someone’s best intentions aren’t seen until we have the same perspective… or perhaps understand the place they are/were coming from. This message hits home for me regularly now…

      Thanks so much for taking the time to stop by. SO grateful! :)

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