What is REALLY Behind a Facebook Status Update


I love Facebook, I really do. Every time I venture over there to catch up on the news of dear friends and blogging buddies, I find myself always oohing and aaahing over precious pictures and exciting updates. I would say about 80% of what I see is absolutely lovely. And I for one love good news and moments captured that are worth sharing with the world on social media! Heck, if and when I think about it- I sure love to announce great events and experiences myself.  How many of us can’t wait for the next facebook status update of our lives?

It’s just really neat to have an audience for our lives, isn’t it?

I also love people that share circumstances that need prayer or encouragement, because I’m one to dive in and start praying and encouraging. I get it. There are those times you just want to take a megaphone and say “Help me!” or “Help them!” or “Help him/her”.

I’m not too fond of the status updates that are political or slamming or rude or provocative in any nature. I’m also not a fan of inappropriate sexualized slander either. It’s just not my style.

One thing I do realize? We tend to share more of the good stuff, don’t we? And sometimes I wonder how good it really is behind the photos and words. I do. I would love to go into the homes of where those photos or updates were taken and hide in the closet and watch how things ‘really’ were going before and after that picture or announcement was posted. Is that weird? Stalker-ish weird? It’s more about the reality of things really. I’m not a stalker, but I am quite curious.

I am pretty transparent. I mean, my very first selfie on FB was of my ‘Toe grind” after the doc carved out my toenail. It was my most viewed post to this day. Yeah- apparently really really gross toes are wildly attractive to the masses. I got so many comments in the first ten minutes that I was laughing so hard I was crying because of them. Oh, it was hilarious!!! I think I made a lot of people gag that night. It was glorious, except for the beautiful Christian author I was promoting at the VERY SAME TIME on the very same social media outlet while my TOE kept popping up on the feed, because of the immediate freak out session going on in the comments.


My dear daughter was teaching my son how to cook macaroni and cheese the other day for his school project. It was just so sweet of her to offer to help him, I wanted to video tape it and take a picture to share with the world on Facebook! I mean, how precious is that? Right?

It started out wonderfully. She helped him read the directions and write down each step for his project with patience and careful planning. Unfortunately things digressed pretty quickly once the cooking actually started, and I thought to myself-

What if I actually posted the picture before this act of kindness grew nasty? If only they could see it now!

“I’m so proud of my kids!! Cassidy is teaching Cade how to make his favorite food! Adorable? YES!” #Bigsister #siblinglove

What is REALLY Behind A Facebook Status Update
















But what REALLY happened was this:

I never did post the picture… and even if I did, I wouldn’t think twice about it really.

But it is a bit deceptive, isn’t it?

If I knew how to post both the picture AND the video together…

I would post the picture as a cover shot for the video and say,

“Don’t they look so cute in the kitchen, these two? Boy, are YOU fooled! Press play to see what really happened. ” #Reality #Truth #Lifewithkids

I think those updates are much more fun anyway.

When the kids watched this video and another one that was even more brutal, they laughed and had a bit of a reality check themselves.

Cassidy, “Gosh mom, I sound like a brat!  I hope I’m not that awful.  Will you tell your blog readers that I’m not that bad?”

Cade, “I love it mom!  I’m really cute in this!”


(Friends, Cass really isn’t that bad- usually.  And well, Cade IS quite adorable always.  Even when he is terribly annoying.)


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  1. says

    Chris, I loved that video and life really does unfold before our eyes. And trust me as much as my girls do love each other, they totally have their snarky moments with each other, too!

  2. says

    Life with kids changes on a dime, doesn’t it? Just when we’re all proud of our parenting because our kids are taking care of each other, one of them threatens to kill the other one. You’re definitely not alone.

    There are so many things I love about facebook and just a few I hate. As long as the love outweighs the hate I’ll stay.

    See you on facebook!

  3. says

    Bwaahahhahahaha they’re both GORGEOUS. So are you 😀 I love the ‘reality check’.

    (also, to clarify – you’re a alright with APPROPRIATE sexualised slander…? 😉 )

  4. Tammy says

    Hahaha! My kids are NEVER like that!….except sometimes ; ) Very true though, sometimes my posts don’t show the whole picture – and I’m cool with that. I’ll invite the world into my beautiful moments, and MY world into my not-so-lovely ones. So glad you’re part of my world WPB!

    • says

      Yeah- I think my world has gotten bigger! Its cool. I’m okay with exposing some of our stuff, if it provides a message or has some meaning to it all. It’s worth the risk for me- with this blog- ya know? BUT- those really private parts- those are reserved for my besties- like YOU. <3

  5. says

    Oh my word, that is hilarious! And true. Not too many people like to admit on FB that their families aren’t perfectly perfect in every way.
    Tell Cass that your readers still think she’s the bee’s knees. 🙂

    • says

      I am going to tell Cass that RIGHT NOW- she’s home sick with me, while I respond to comments… playing catch up in the biggest way. Inch by inch. I’m glad you get it, Christine!! Who doesn’t have it real? There is simply no perfect.

  6. says

    Such a good reminder that when dealing with social media, what you see isn’t always the whole story.

    I LOVE the behind-the-scenes video, Chris! (This could be MY family!)

    • says

      It is something we all have behind the scenes of our ‘best moments’, right? I don’t know any other way to engage with people, than keeping it real. 🙂

  7. says

    haha.. he is adorable in it. She’s adorable too, despite her big sister yelling. Scarlet is well-versed in that.
    Most of my photos are just that wonderful. Life is a fairy tale, isn’t it???
    Just kidding. My photos are me being sneaky in the in-betweens of whining, scowling and other things. With Scarlet.
    Des is really that delightful.

  8. says

    This made me laugh because I can totally relate!!!
    And, I know it’s because I’m an outsider but I didn’t think Cassidy sounded bratty – she sounded like a big sister trying to help her little brother:) Cade is very cute!!
    I’m with you – I always want to know what went on behind the scenes (or maybe I don’t)!

    • says

      You are too sweet Kim!! I will tell Cass that… 🙂 I really DO want to know behind the scenes… that is the only way I can relate to people, really. <3

  9. says

    I love that! Just today, my two oldest were at the horseback riding lesson and my oldest was actually helping her younger sister groom the horse. Another mom commented something about how sweet it was and she bet they were best of friends. I actually laughed out loud and told her that, usually, they are more like oil and water. I could have posted that pic on FB, but it’s not reality. I think people want to share the good (i.e. boast) and hide the not-so-good (which is actually mostly just normal.)

    • says

      Aw!! That’s so sweet that your oldest was helpful! Yeah- I feel for those who simply feel like they can’t be honest… it reveals that they have a need to be perfect or prove something, which is sad to me. Everyone has an underbelly! Life isn’t perfect- far from it.

  10. says

    Yes, the happy, happy, happy posts can be hard to read, especially the ones from a friend who calls daily to complain about how miserable she is. I call ir fakebooking;)

  11. says

    I love the honesty, the reality! We need more of it. To your point, I just posted a FB update about my 11yo calling me from middle school because he forget his book fair money. I actually thought twice about posting it because 1) it gives some moms the idea that their kid is better than mine because theirs would never forget their book fair money and 2) what kind of mom am I that my son forgets his book fair money. Now, I know those thoughts are ridiculous, but I had them nonetheless. But I posted it because I thought it was funny – and a real moment. He forgot his book fair money and thought we would just drop everything to bring him some. Really? Actually, maybe his dad did! I’m at work and can’t. 🙂 BTW, your two in the video make me feel better about my two –same type of interactions go on at our house every day!

    • says

      Now see? I would laugh hysterically at your post and TOTALLY relate to it!! What kid DOESN’T forget stuff? And I am totally comfortable sharing the ‘underbelly’ for the most part – of our lives, because really? I KNOW everyone has one. 🙂

  12. says

    I can totally relate! I don’t post a lot on my personal acct but if I will talk about everything that goes wrong in our house daily, I’d beat all the nanowrimo participants! Hahahahaha!

  13. says

    So true! Yes, I welcome the honesty. It’s like we censor ourselves with social media, but I’d really rather hear/see about the grit. Maybe it would bring us all together in a more positive way. Visiting from SHINE Blog Hop.

  14. says

    totally my house.
    that’s why I kick them all out of the kitchen when I cook. ha
    But showing them the video so they could see – brilliant.

    and now I really want some Kraft dinner. 🙂

    • says

      I think I am going to video tape them more often- and enjoy the play back and the disgrace on their faces!!

      I got some Kraft boxes just waiting to be made for you, girl!! Or- we can ask the kids to make it and watch the show! 😉

    • says

      Well, you didn’t see the FOLLOWING video I taped continuing this drama… one which my dear daughter would not allow to be published. It got a bit U.G.L.Y. Such is life with kids- oh, and ME! lol

  15. says

    I love when people #AirbrushTheirLives as they climb the social media ladder. That’s what I call it, anyway. They only show the best parts, smoothing over the zit of a kid fight and the muffintop of life so everyone will think that they live a glamorous life. Thank you for the honesty! And the video! P.S. Both of your kids are really cute.

    • says

      Thanks so much Pattie!! I always fear those people who can’t be transparent are trying to live up to their idea of ‘perfect’ – and there is simply no such thing. Why not embrace it all? This is life. Lows and highs and everything in between. 🙂

  16. says

    LOL – loved this Chris.

    Yes! The reality! I share lots… including photos of my kids’ messes.

    I never want someone to think I have a “picture perfect” life but I also think that we need to look at things realistically and KNOW that no one’s life is perfect.

    Your kids are adorable – so glad they survived the Mac N’ Cheese fiasco!

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely day.

  17. says

    I’m so glad you posted this!! This is what my kids sound like too! I wonder if recording them and then playing it back to them would make a difference? I have had similar incidents with my photos. I once took a photo of my boys holding hands walking down the soccer field. Literally two second after I took the picture they were punching each other and yelling. Oy!!

  18. says

    Yep. Sounds an awful lot like our house sometimes. I think I need to video one of the more epic fights. You did much better than I do at mediating. I’m just a little bit louder 🙂

    • says

      I think many ‘negative’ things in our lives are more private and not worthy of ‘publishing’ for all to see. At least I won’t share lots of my personal or family issues/conflicts if it involves other people. To me, it’s a respect issue and a TMI issue. I for one, have some pretty set boundaries.

  19. says

    I struggle with this really. MOSTLY because I have been accused of sharing too much of the negative side of things. There is a fine balance. We need to try to be honest, and real, but at the same time, uplifting and positive. I think you balance both quite nicely. 🙂

    • says

      YOU? Too negative? That doesn’t seem accurate to me. But yes- I suppose there is a fine line between the two. I never ‘track’ my posts… it’s just our lives and sometimes it IS more negative and other times it’s HUGELY POSITIVE!! That. Is. Life.

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