In our family, we set out on a mission to build character and instill faith in our children. When the kids were little, it was all about keeping them fed and safe from harm. We were immersed in changing diapers, and teaching them how to eat and speak and walk. The functioning is at it’s peak during those critical years of development, as we bundle our little ones to protect them from the cold and rock them to sleep- the basic fundamentals are laid before us.
But as the years roll along, our children need a different set of rules. Our kids can understand the need to go by all the systems and standards of their home, school, activities and sports that infiltrate their lives. All areas promote valuable lessons and powerful messages to behave, succeed, and belong.
Be kind and polite. Use good teamwork and communication. Study and be mindful. Plan well and schedule. Responsibility is key. And in order for our kids to succeed in all areas of their life, they must be grounded in the values we hold as a family. Our home base is where we set the foundation for everything else in their lives. If our children don’t have rich soil to plant their seeds, how will they grow to be a vital person with endless potential and purpose? Kids can surely follow the rules of this world, but I want more. I want my kids to honor why we follow such rules. I want them to dig deep and stretch far and see beyond the guidelines of life.
As the kids get older, our house rules transform into even greater expectations of who they are and what they do. We place our values in the heart of our home, as we help our kids grow into the person God intended them to be. We want to ground them in confidence, nurture them through love, and raise them with respect. We are passionate about their hearts behind the rules, their intentions beyond their behavior, and their beliefs about their faith. If we miss out on this critical time to invest in discovering what defines them, I fear they may live their lives void of meaning. So we hold tight to the under-layers of the ‘whys’ and carefully dig in to what really matters.
Our home embraces and encourages such things:
I am over at 1Corinthians13 parenting today talking about our house rules and why we set them. I would love for you to come by and share yours as well. Parenting is all about the process, and in it we all grow. What are your house rules? Come read our house rules.