The wave of consensus seems to often guide us toward caring for ourselves in a protective and delicate way. We are to only go so far and never go beyond what we are comfortable doing…don’t push or pull too hard. If it’s stepping into fear or sacrificing who we are, then we must consider this a threat to our internal peace. Life is supposed to be well maintained and our psyche depends on it. Don’t ‘over do it’ or get too ‘stressed out’… don’t say ‘yes’ to something if it’s beyond our ‘comfort zone’ and God forbid the fearful ‘unknown’.
We exist in society that treasures the sanctity of selfish sustenance, where we lose the ability to fight for fierce fulfillment.
This is especially suited for the broken hearted. Those precious souls who suffer great loss and grief over death, divorce or devastation of any kind. They are to care for their aching souls in a delicate and fragile embrace, not to extend themselves in taking risks or pushing forward too fast.
Don’t take steps until you are comfortable with the staircase.
Well my friends, I have been witness to a completely different approach.
I have been blessed to see the strength of a warrior rise in the wounded.
No cradled compassion or delicate decisions, but women facing fires with the unbridled force of grasping at any light to survive their circumstances.
What conquers darkness most?
Light, my friends. Precious light.
And I see women all around me grabbing it with a growl of desperation in learning to live again. I see friends courageously going forward into the unknown risking the possibility that in it, they will discover new light.
The more light shines, the more the darkness is illuminated. Amen?
So as I walk by the sides of women who have suffered such awful turns, I see those moments where they transform into a conquering hero. Instead of closing the doors of their opportunities to want more and gain more, they choose daily to say yes to more- in the hopes of allowing new rays to shine deep within their broken hearts.
A friend organizing a fundraiser for a debilitating disease her husband suffers.
Friends who share their story on line, in hopes that others will find comfort in their words.
A friend ending her marriage and moving far away with her three small children to start life anew: Her motto? “Say YES to everything.”
Another friend going through an agonizing divorce of 33 years trying to accept this new life alone, as she dives into each opportunity for rebuilding her life, and fueling her faith. Not one step has been easy, but she pushes forward with a might that inspires me.
This is no easy plan, my friends. I have been privileged to have a view into this new world of daring risks and adventures and above all, DIScomfort in a way that extends far beyond contentedness. And yet, it is the most beautiful passionate piece of our human condition. Fighting for survival and finding the light.
It’s in us all.
Fight or flight? These women don’t flight- they fight.
Each one of us must realize our potential within broken dreams. Yes- Suffering is sacred. Compassion is key. Pain is powerful. But light is healing.
Go grab it with a growl. Go beyond what you think you can handle, and take those steps on that wobbly staircase up and out into the unknown. Look for any light where you can find it. It will be difficult and terrifying. But if you have fallen into one of life’s dark holes- that shaky staircase may be your only way out.
Don’t be delicate. Be deliberate.
Dig deep. Grab hold. Go far. Push. Pull. Risk. Step. Do. Fight.