Are you good at saying “No”?
I think many women struggle with this word.
I know I do…
You receive a call from a dear friend asking for help moving all her things to storage Saturday, but you don’t know how you can come through with such a busy weekend ahead. Your church emails you a request to serve at the weekly ministry this winter, and you just don’t have the time or the energy to do it but you’ll feel awful if you let them down. The school called and they desperately need a volunteer for the upcoming winter event, but you’re torn because that week’s schedule is already packed.
We are passionate people, and we have compassionate hearts. When there is someone in need we seem to have a hard time turning down their request. There are endless opportunities to say “No” in our lives as there are endless people in need of help. Whether it’s organizations, ministries, philanthropic groups, beloved friends or family, there are countless asks and we are faced with the giving them the answer.
My dear friend, Galit Breen asked me to write a guest post for VProud, and I am deeply honored to have my article about this very difficult topic published on such an incredible site! I believe this is an issue we need to work through as we all learn to discern how to better care for ourselves in balancing our ability to give when we can, serve where it’s needed- BUT also practice the fine art of knowing when to say “No” before we find ourselves exhausted and depleted.
Can you say “AMEN”?
Let’s get wise together and pursue a more intentional response to all those requests that is both fulfilling and purposeful- but not overwhelming and frantic. We don’t have to say “Yes” every time, despite the pressure we feel to come through. WE can’t be everything to everyone, and if we try, we will surely fail. If we don’t say “no” often enough, we will miss out on what matters most in our lives.
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