Oh friends, do I have something incredibly special to share with you today! If you have been living in matrimony for years or freshly celebrating your recent vows, these marriage resources are invaluable to the health of you and your spouse.
I have had the honor and privilege of receiving “Marriage Rebranded” by Tyler Ward with hopes to share it’s invaluable wisdom and truths in which he unequivocally proves his powerful message of “Modern Misconceptions and the Unnatural Art of Loving Another Person.” After you learn more about this incredible book, you will surely want to look into it more, and get to know Tyler Ward’s purpose and mission. You can go HERE to do so.
I know far too many married couples that are struggling, straining, suffocating in their union, and this book speaks to the reasons why so many marriages have been broken and torn through the countless misleading perspectives on what marriage is ‘supposed to be’.
For anyone who has been married for one year or thirty years, you know full well that this significant piece of your life is a critical component to your happiness, your health, and your hope. I don’t believe there is anything more important in your life and mine, for which to invest. I absolutely love that Tyler saw this need early on in his marriage, when he realized through his own harsh tests and trials of navigating a life with his wife, that something was incredibly wrong with their misguided journey together.
“I had brought suitcases of misconceptions to the altar. And as these misconceptions were tested in the face of a very real relationship, we slowly but surely waved goodbye to our best friend slumber party and Norman Rockwell picturesque life.”
I am guessing there are many heads nodding right now to this honest revelation.
“Marriage can at times feel more like exactly what it is: the very unnatural, and sometimes unhappy, reality of two unique people-with all of their beauty and dysfunction-attempting to love each other and navigate life together.”
Ah, yes. Keep nodding…
But it gets better. For Tyler continues to share truths and wisdom that far exceed those misconceptions and broken pieces that have strangled the very life out of marriages. He shares powerful insight into what defines marriage based on the original intent of this God Given Gift worth fighting for.
“Marriage, even though it will introduce us to some of life’s most arduous moments, has brilliant intentions in mind. It’s unapologetically interested in chipping away at our dysfunctional thoughts, patterns, and postures in life and inviting us-our spouses-to become the best version of ourselves.”
As I read through the pages and pages of his poignant words, frantically highlighting and nodding along the way- I realized every single bit of this has played out in my own marriage.
Over 13 years ago, we began our daily transformation of chiseling away at the somewhat naïve and often selfish conception that our marital journey would be filled with a natural unfolding friendship and romance despite some bumps and bruises we so maturely assumed would occur. It didn’t take long for us to dive much deeper into the raw and gritty growth of living this life together, shaping and molding us into givers and seekers of sacrificial love. There will always be those pivotal moments that offer us an opportunity to “chip away at our dysfunctional thoughts, patterns, and postures in life…”. Who knew our love had the potential to be the most potent, and hard-earned fulfilling love in this world?
I for one am a better version of myself because of it. And I grow more and more in love with my husband every day, because I see him too- becoming the best version of him.
Stripping away the dead skin of history, and carving out the treasures within your spouse is and always will be our greatest fulfillment in marriage. I thank God every day, that during those tumultuous times of discovering how to give, understand, communicate, cultivate, and commune together- neither of us ever gave up. There were times we both thought the undertaking was too grueling and down right terrifying, but through prayer and petitions grasping our sacred vows- we held on.
Oh, yes my friends. Marriage is surely worth fighting for!
We figured out and realized that in order to nourish our marriage, we needed to feed each other.
I love what Tyler shares about the true definition and meaning of the Hebrew word for love.
“’Ahava’ is actually a verb that means ‘I give’… To love another means to give.”
He goes on to share what that looks like in a marriage. I am betting that if you are married, you have a list of your own. And what’s so beautiful about living out this ‘unnatural art of loving another person’ is that in our giving… comes more fulfillment than anything we would get otherwise.
Have you experienced this?
As I continue to refine this un-selfish way of giving in my marriage, I reap the most amazing rewards each and every time I take a deep breath and stretch beyond myself. Giving is love. Love is giving. I am living that beautiful truth with my husband every darn day we both continue to sacrifice our own needs for the sake of the other. The deepest irony unfolds when this happens… we discover our needs are not only met but we are drenched in the blessings of each others love.
Every. Single. Time.
We extend ourselves…beyond what we want- and reach for the other. I have yet to find anything more gratifying. Truly.
I have only begun to share the wealth of knowledge and insight Tyler reveals in his book. The richness of his words will carry you through endless research, interviews with marriage experts/authors and his chilling experiments in practicing the ‘Unnatural art of loving’ his precious wife, Analee.
In celebration of launching his book, “Marriage Rebranded”, Tyler has also published a free ebook titled “Marriage Hacks” which holds invaluable advice for married couples. These well-known contributors share twenty-five profound perspectives that make love last. I am deeply honored to have a small part in this compilation, and join in the mission to bring much needed new light to love. This ebook is a must read, well worth your time to take in the sweet well of fresh water for your thirsty marriage. I for one am always in search of growing the one love in my life to greater heights and deeper depths for the sole purpose of God’s Divine intention in marriage. I think Tyler says it best in “Marriage Rebranded”…
“In short, as we learn to love and therefore give to our spouse, we not only become the best version of ourselves-we offer our spouse the chance to become the best version of him or herself as well.”
Oh friends… I am only beginning to share the intricate and passionate pieces of this vital message Tyler ignites through his book. There is just too much good stuff to not share here in this place of encouragement. I hope and pray you will take in all the goodness it has to offer to you and your marriage.