One year ago today, I released my book, “Help and Hope While You’re Healing: A woman’s guide toward wellness while recovering from injury, surgery, or illness”.
I didn’t dream it to be a wild ride of success landing on The New York Time’s Best Seller list. I rather dreamed it to be a source of comfort for the broken ones in their time of need.
And once in a while, I get sweet reminders that my book is doing just that, and it makes my heart SWELL.
I am currently on the road to recovery from an injury and just finished reading your book. I have to thank you with all my heart for helping me see the beauty in the struggle. I plan to keep rereading this book until I am fully healed. So grateful for what you have shared through this book and you have my word that I will be sharing it with all of my loved ones who are ever faced with an injury or illness. Thank you Christine ✨
Our bodies break down, fall ill, get injured… It happens to the best of us, the strongest of us, the healthiest of us.
Any time we are down for the count and facing a healing process- it’s rough.
Over the last year, I have been busy behind the scenes of this blog, trying to help people with my book. I like to call what I’m doing- “My Secret Mission“.
I decided long ago, that I would send my book to anyone who needed it. As people continue to reach out to me, sharing their stories and thanking me for my encouraging posts about healing and recovery, I offer to send them my book. I buy 20 books at a time (yes, self published authors buy their own books), and I send them to anyone who is in this hard healing place and needs a hand to hold through it all.
I have been blessed by many readers who have reached out to me to share their stories, whether through my blog or my book. I enjoy reading emails describing progress updates with photos included and I try to encourage them all to be hopeful in their healing. I even had one husband contact me for guidance on how to help his wife while she was going to be the one taking care of him throughout his recovery. (Can you believe? LOVE.). I spend a good amount of my time communicating with people who are hurting and healing, and it gives me great joy to send them my book.
With all the experiences I have read from so many readers, I noticed there are similar complaints, emotions, and uncertainties most women face. Whether they are healing from any injury, surgery, or illness- the issues are the same. I’d like to address them here, in honor of all those weary warriors who are facing the fight of an agonizing and often frustrating healing process.
FIVE THINGS YOU MUST KNOW WHILE YOU RECOVER FROM ANY INJURY, SURGERY, OR ILLNESS.
- You are not alone.
Every single woman who has reached out to me tells me how grateful she feels to know she is not alone. Recovering from a painful physical limitation of any kind can be isolating and lonely. The experience of healing can be so overwhelming and you can often feel utterly alone in not only how you are recovering, but how you are handling the recovery. This is key. You may feel like you are failing at this healing process, like you are completely unable to do this right, do it well, do it – at all. But here is the God’s honest truth: EVERY SINGLE WOMAN FEELS THAT WAY. We all struggle at being stuck and unable to function like we used to. We all have meltdowns, throw fits, sob, and even want to give up at times. But you know what else we all have in common? We dig deep down to discover new strength to persevere, new courage to endure. Yeah, that’s what women do.
“I was so grateful to read your tips. I was grateful to know that there are so many who feel like I do. So many out there who feel lost in this inability to function normally. “
- It’s time to get bold and reach out.
When was the last time you asked for help? This is an unsettling, uncomfortable, and unconventional thing to consider, isn’t it? I know. You’d rather muster through things on your own, because my gosh- people have so much else to worry about! You don’t want to burden anyone else with your needs, do you? I know. I get it. But this is where you must put your big girl pants on and find the courage and confidence to ask for help. Women are caretakers and doers of all things, but guess what? It’s your time to be on the receiving end. Please allow others to take care of YOU. People WANT to help you, but they might not know how. They need you to ask and tell them what you need. Let them feel good about helping someone they love. You know that feeling, right?
” Reading your post (aloud) I just cried! I’m not some cross-fit, superwoman but I’m not weak or lazy. I struggle so badly with letting people help me or wait on me… even when it’s appropriate. This has been like psychological torture to accept or ask for help. Thank you SO much for saying everything you said and amusingly and beautifully as you did. I needed it more than I realized.
I think I can handle this after all.”
- You are not going insane, you just feel like it.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve had a reader reach out to me to thank me for assuring her that she is not going insane. When you are stripped down to nothing, marred in pain, and unable to function in your active daily life- it can feel like you are drowning in your own madness, sucked into the quick sand of overwhelm and you just might come to the conclusion that you are losing IT. But I promise- you aren’t. You just feel like you are. Unravel as you need. But know that in your unraveling, you are undeniably experiencing the emotional roller-coaster of recovery and healing- and that is absolutely sane.
“I’ve read both your articles and have been truly touched, blessed and felt at peace that I’m not totally losing my mind! “
- Healing is not in your control, no matter how hard you try to control it.
Your body is this miraculous extraordinary system that seems to work on its own agenda, its own timeline, and with its own set of rules and regulations. Lucky you. As much as you can rest and care for your injury, your wounds, your illness, it just might have a plan of its own. This can be infuriating. You may feel like you want to give up at times- and you might even hate your body when it won’t do what you want it to do. You need to listen to it and honor the healing process with patience. Let it recover, regulate, restore, replenish, and repair on its own timeline. Honor that process, okay? It knows what it’s doing. You’re not the boss of it. Sorry, but it’s true.
No words to express how difficult it is for this woman, but you get it. I’m on countdown for the cast to come off and x-rays to reveal the healing (10 days). For me it’s the boot next (non-weight bearing and at some point weight bearing). L-o-n-g…
Thank you, thank you, thank you for sharing these truths. Your perspective has allowed me to refocus and remain patient through this long healing process.
- GOOD things come during BAD TIMES.
Have you found anything you can claim as good yet? If not, I promise you will. This season will be rough, but I promise you will find something incredible in the midst of it. It might be a new friend, a new revelation, or a new hobby. It might be a new strength or perspective you never had before. Perhaps you have grown deeper in your faith, been inspired to serve in a new way, or even learned something you never would have learned had you not been in this recovery season. Are there people who are showing up for you in the most sacrificial ways? Look for the good things through your blurry vision. I promise they are there.
Thank you for your blog and your posts… This journey is so more mental than anything else, it is not on my timetable and that is the hardest lesson to learn. When you lose the ability to drive and walk in the blink of any eye, it changes you. Life is precious and should never be taken for granted. Love hard and live for the moment because the past is over and you can’t predict the future.
Hold on, all you broken warriors. You CAN do this. Healing WILL come. The most important thing you can do for yourself is to love yourself through it.
I’m here if you need. And if you want my book, I’d be glad to send it to you!
Gentle hugs to all…