I took my daughter to dinner the other night, in order to succumb to her pleading for “quality time” together. You see, I only see her every minute that she is alive every day, other than school. But she is my needy one, so I go with it. (Yeah, I know I am reinforcing her neediness. But I’d also like to think I am creating a bond that will withstand adolescence. I guess we’ll see…)
So as we were stuffing pasta down our throats, with buttered bread and small talk…I decided our conversation needed to go deeper. These are the moments that could matter. These are the times when our dialogue could have an impact on her life- her values, her goals, her struggles, her dreams.
I looked deep into her carbohydrate-overindulgent eyes and claimed the ultimate question:
“What’s your dream?”
Her eyes first lit up, then she looked confused. Then she appeared to be processing this grandiose inquiry with a quizzical twist of her head…
After a few more bites and moments of deep introspection she answers:
“Well, my dream has always been to be a Bagger at Kroger, or maybe even a Scanner!” She says this with utmost excitement and nervous energy as though she could feel the “plastic or paper” under her skin. She gazes toward the sky with her fantasy playing out in her head. In the grocery store, wearing her uniform, bagging the groceries or reaching to grab the next item to scan.
Cashier or Bagger. Hmmm.
That’s my girl. Reaching for the stars in her own little eight-year old world.
She wonders why.
I tell her to shoot higher. She has so many gifts and skills, why not open her world to bigger and more profound desires of her heart? I explain that those are great dreams, yet there is so much more to do and explore and investigate.
I share that her career path is unlimited, but her vision is…
I proceed to offer ideas and suggestions.
She then lights up with a newfound thrill and exclaims her real dream.
“I wanna be a superstar, mommy!!!”
Now that’s what I call shooting for the stars.
And with each dinner we share together alone, we will approach this topic and see how it changes through the years and seasons of her life.
This is the joyous journey of a mom with her child. The opportunity to see her dream, and the ability to watch her passions grow.
Or maybe, somewhere in-between. 🙂