When I first had my kids, I assumed I would continue to be at the piano regularly playing my songs and writing new ones, anytime I was inspired. My music was my greatest creative outlet and my most passionate joy. I had been playing since childhood, and found writing music to be cathartic and therapeutic in so many ways. It was my refuge, my release, my relief when I most needed the barricade to fall- allowing the emotional waters to spill through.
For years and years, this was my way of expressing myself and healing. I never even considered letting it go, because it was a part of who I was and how I was able to function and operate in this world. I needed this outlet to be healthy, to be whole, to be me.
After I had my kids, my intentions slowly turned and changed and faded into the background of my life, now filled with parenting two little ones that seemed to consume my time and my emotional energy- leaving nothing for my greatest gift- Music.
At first, I hardly noticed. I was too overwhelmed with caring for my kids- as my first-born had challenges we were forced to muddle through and figure out. As I continued to teach music, I was pouring what little energy I had into that, leaving no room for my creative sanctuary. It seemed I lost my passion for this significant part of who I was, as it became buried underneath my parenting role.
It was a new life with kids, I declared. A new season where there is less of me and more of them. I was exhausted and worried and constantly caring for them, which was my priority and my new passion. Motherhood has a way of redefining who we are, and that isn’t a bad thing. I think it took me several years to understand how important it is to allow space for more. Any mom can surely continue a career, enjoy a hobby or pursuit a passion, and in doing so, you will be better off for it.
I got stuck in motherhood, dismissing and neglecting much of who I was and that was okay for a while. Sometimes I believe motherhood calls you to be solely focused on your children, when seasons arise in raising them where your attention is necessary to address the demands of their lives. It needed to happen, those early years were difficult and navigating through some really hard issues with my child was exactly where I needed to be. I continued to prioritize things for myself, choosing to do bible studies and reaching out to connect with friends. But this one area in my life, I neglected. This creative side that is a crucial part of who I am.
I’m so glad I found it again, here on this blog and in my writing.
Today I want to share a really important book with you, titled “The Busy Mom’s Guide to Creativity.” Bev Feldman is a blogger and a small business owner over at Linkouture. She makes her own jewelry with the creative gift she has in design. You really need to go check out her stuff. It’s exquisite and so is she.
Bev has a passion for helping moms find their own creative gifts, and how to find time to explore and experience this needed outlet in our lives. Her book walks the reader through defining things that inspire joy and how to create space in our lives in order to do just that. I love how she offers testimonies of many moms who have navigated this tricky road to finding and honoring their creative passion. Reading so many different personal experiences in how others discovered ways to find creativity in their own lives while juggling the responsibilities of motherhood, was truly inspiring.
The message of this book wraps around pursuing things that fill us and fuel us, and Bev tackles issues that hinder our ability to do just that. This book is about motivating us moms to break through those barriers of time and ‘mom guilt’ and identify new ways to grow and thrive within our busy schedules as moms.
This wonderful workbook is filled with stepping stones for us to take toward making goals in the area of creativity and threading it through our lives. She tackles tough topics like:
What’s holding you back?
What makes you happy?
What does creativity mean to you?
Why find time for creativity?
Get rid of mom guilt.
Let things go.
Getting away from busy.
And after she guides us through these defining decisions, she then offers us helpful ideas on how to tap into our creative pursuits. I love how she walks us through each step with space to write down our daily schedules to find wasted time we could use for creativity. Bev identifies barriers we all face in finding the time for ourselves, and she addresses them with wisdom and advice in the remaining chapters of her book.
She focuses on how to manage your time, and how to include your children in creative pursuits as well. I especially love the “Pomodoro Technique” she shares, where you do one task for 25 minutes, and then take a break. These small segments can help us be more intentional with our time and allow us to stay focused on our mission in a much more productive way.
This book is a worthy read for all moms who need help in discovering and defining areas they want to pursuit that tap into their creativity. Do you know a mom who would benefit from this workbook? I think it would be a lovely gift for a new mom or any mom who longs to enrich that part of her life, but just can’t seem to find the time to do it. Bev does an amazing job of igniting that creative fire and helping you figure out how to find the space and freedom to pursuit that passion.
You can download the kindle version of the book for only 99 cents or buy the beautiful paperback HERE.